As a family photographer, one of my favorite parts of the job is capturing the connection and love that are unique to each family. However, I know how nerve-wracking it can be to stand in front of a camera. To be honest, I’m not a big fan myself. Often people worry about “posing right”. They feel awkward and don’t know where to look or what to do with their hands. I can tell you that it is completely normal to feel this way! Here are some tips to help you relax, have fun, and look your best during your session.
Focus on Connection, Not Perfection
The connection you have with your family is what makes your photos special. Don’t worry about a certain pose or a certain look. I will tell you about the ‘walking together pose’ when you are holding hands or linking arms, sharing a laugh (telling some jokes), or looking at your family members while slowly walking towards me. To get the hang of it and forget about me and my camera, we usually do this more than once :o) These photos ALWAYS turn out very nice and show those natural, authentic photos of you and the family. No matter if that’s a spouse, the kids, siblings or cousins or (grand) parents. I’ve seen over and over again that these photos show the special connections people have. These images always turn out to be gorgeous! I truly love these lifestyle shots and do them almost at every session.
Relax with a Pre-Session Chat
Feeling comfortable with your photographer is key! Before our session, let’s talk about your concerns, preferences, and any specific ideas you have. I really like to hear if there are certain poses people have in mind! Through the years I've learned that clients find ideas online or sometimes want to re-enact a moment from the past. I ’ll also walk you through the process of a Family Photo Session and answer any questions so you feel totally prepared. If anyone in your family is particularly nervous (especially kids!), let me know so I can adapt the session to their comfort level. We can take breaks, have a snack or play a game. I have three kids of my own and remember well when they were younger. I know how to adjust and be flexible. And definitely let me know if you bring the family dog. We then discuss the personality of the dog, talk about bringing snacks, water and toys. Very important; I always pack a small squeaker to put in my pocket. This works wonders to get the dog to look my way for that perfect shot.
Plan Outfits in Advance
Choosing outfits that coordinate (but don’t match exactly) can boost your confidence. Go for colors and styles that make you feel comfortable and reflect your family’s personality. Avoid anything too bright or shirts with distracting patterns (think fire trucks, sparkly fairies, dinosaur prints and other big and bright drawings and patterns). I understand clothing like this is fun and the kids love it but unfortunately these kinds of outfits are always distracting in photos! Soft and neutral tones works best. These photograph beautifully, especially outdoors.
Here’s a blog post that can help: https://clicklovegrow.com/what-to-wear-at-your-family-portrait-session/
Bring Props or Activities
Incorporating props or activities can make the session feel more natural and fun too. Whether it’s a picnic blanket (kids love to run under and through it), soap bubbles or a favorite toy or book. Playing, laughing, a tickle fight or cuddling with the kids or dog are great ways to get some movement in the shots and get that not-so-posed-look in images. It usually gives us genuine smiles and natural looking photographs.
Trust the Process
It’s my job to make you look and feel your best! During the session, I’ll provide plenty of direction to guide you into flattering and natural poses. Don’t worry if it feels a little silly at first. Very often these are moments when the best laughs happen. Just keep in mind, the goal isn’t to look perfect but to capture the love and connection that make your family uniquely you and yours. It’s important to remember that a family photography session is about creating memories, not just photos. Relax, be in the moment, and trust me to handle the rest. The most important thing is for you to show up as your authentic selves. I’ll take care of making sure your session is a success.
Ready to book your session or have more questions? Let’s connect! I can’t wait to help you create beautiful memories that last a lifetime.
